Every relationship has a cycle.
In the begining; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural an spontaneous experience. You didn't have to do anything. That's why it's called 'falling' in love. People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet." Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there, doing nothing, and then something happened to you. Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of every relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your Partner might start asking, "am I with the right person?" and as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationship breakdown. The key to succeeding in a relatinship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found. People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does not lie outside your relationship. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could, and temporarily you would feel better. But you will be in the same situation years later. Because (read this very carefully): the key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person, it's learning to love the person you have found.
Sustaining love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands wisdom. You have to know what to do to make it work. Make no mistakes about it. Love is not a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), just as there are physical laws if the universe ( such as gravity), there are also laws for relationship. If you know and aply these laws, the results are predictable.
Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling. Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go!!
taken from matey's note.
no offence,
but it's so much easier to say than doing it.
been thinking about sing song's grandmama.
she misses her late husband so much that she falls sick.
maybe i should stay single forever,
i wont be depressed when my husband pass away.
or,
i should get married & die before my husband does.
* at times like this, everyone is so busy. i should find myself a new best friend.
don't come to me saying you're my best friend when you dont act like one.
you go reflect on yourself & i will too.*
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